Saturday SpellWork: The I-Screwed-Up Jar

So I thought I’d start a new feature here on my website. I’ve been practicing as a Pagan for thirty years now, and I’ve written a metric shit-ton of original spells. Some I’ve published – there are 366 of them in The Good Witch’s Daily Spell Book and twenty more in the upcoming Wicca Practical Magic (#shamelessplug!) – but there are countless others that I’ve never put out before. I thought it would be fun to start sharing them here with y’all, so I’m going to try to do a weekly feature called Saturday Spellwork, where I’ll share something new and nifty that you can add to your Book of Shadows.

I’m starting with this one because I had a reader message me on Facebook asking about reconciliation spells, and once I pulled this one out of my ol’ Hard Drive of Shadows, I realized that other than the old AOHell Message Boards of Yore, I’d never shared it publicly before. It’s a goodie, and comes in really handy if you’re trying to repair a relationship that you yourself have damaged, especially if there was deceit involved.

Have at it, kids!

The I-Screwed-Up Jar

You’ll need:

Two blue votive candles, to symbolize peace
Some salt
Rosemary
Sage
Mugwort
A taglock (this is a magical link) for each of the parties in the relationship
A clean glass jar, baby food size will do, with lid

**NOTE:  Feel free to change any of the wording as needed.

Light the blue candles on either side of your work space, so that you can sit comfortably between them. If you normally cast a circle, feel free to do so now.

Remember, this ritual is designed to HELP mend a relationship that has been damaged. That means that the person who did the betraying needs to accept the fact that they screwed up. Place the salt in the jar, and as you do so, say, “This jar is our relationship. It is clean, it is new, and it is pure.”

Add the rosemary and mugwort to the jar. The rosemary and mugwort symbolize healing and health, which is what you are trying to bring to the relationship. As you do so, say, “I have made mistakes, and I have brought deceit to this relationship. From now on, it starts anew, as  I bring honesty and truth to this relationship.”

Add the sage, which symbolizes wisdom. Let’s face it, you need to learn from your mistakes, right? As you add the sage, say, “My mistakes and lies were my own, and no one else’s. I take responsibility for them, and I use this knowledge to be sure I don’t repeat them.”

Add the taglocks. They can be whatever you choose, just make sure they’ll fit in the jar with the lid closed. As you add them, say, “We are in this relationship together.  We are two parts of the same whole, we are equal.  I owe you honesty and respect, and you owe me the same. Our relationship begins to heal even now, blending together you, me, wisdom and healing.”

Mix the contents of the jar around together, and add a drop or two of wax from the blue candles, to add peace to the relationship. Cap the jar tightly. Keep it in a place that has a lot of meaning to you and the person whose trust you have broken — the bedroom, a quiet spot in the backyard, etc.

Remember that trust is earned – no one owes you jack squat. After doing the ritual, show that you are worthy of the person’s trust.